3 Elements That Bring Closer 1-1 Family Relationships
When your child breaks the clear PERSONAL BOUNDARIES you've set for them and yourself, the NATURAL CONSEQUENCES are a temporary reduction in their AUTONOMY during the time you decide to Claim Minutes and take your personal restoration time. While you are taking that needed time to restore your energy, new and more limited boundary lines are drawn for your child. You're not punishing your child. You're teaching your child. You're simply drawing temporary tighter boundaries within which they can exercise their freedoms. 1-1 Family motivates and teaches your child to make better choices in order to maintain and increase their autonomy by respecting you and the good and safe boundaries you set. As a result, you and your child will learn to make good choices as a life habit.
The 3 Main Elements At Work With 1-1:
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PERSONAL BOUNDARIES
Personal boundaries are essential for every individual. Parents have their own boundaries, and it's important for them to establish boundaries for their children as well. Children not only need boundaries but also desire them for a sense of safety. When a child crosses your boundaries or the ones you've set for them, it's crucial to implement a natural consequence. This helps them understand the importance of making better choices. |
NATURAL CONSEQUENCES
In life, natural consequences occur without the need for contrived punishments. In a 1-1 setting, the natural consequence for violating your boundaries is a temporary reduction in your child's autonomy. As you take time to restore yourself, your child experiences a slight limitation in freedom until your energy is replenished. Life is filled with both positive and negative consequences. It’s advantageous for children to cultivate a habit of making good choices early on, as this will lead to long-term benefits for them. |
AUTONOMY (FREE WILL)
Autonomy refers to the inherent freedom of self-governance. This natural desire for control typically emerges around the age of 2, which is why this stage is often called the "Terrible Twos." While children require boundaries, they often resist them due to their strong desire for autonomy. 1-1 guidance helps children learn how to responsibly exercise their freedom, make wise decisions, and lead fulfilling lives. God has created us as independent beings with the gift of free will, granting us the ability to make our own choices. |
When your child breaks the good and safe boundaries you set for them, the natural consequence is a temporary reduction of their autonomy where they can continue to enjoy all of their usual freedoms and still have fun. It's that simple.
