As a result of such great progress with 1-1, I officially told my twin boys (age 7) that I was no longer going to count minutes. That's right! I actually quit 1-1. We don't need it anymore. My 1-1 relationship with my boys is closer than ever. They've learned to manage their own autonomy and are very agreeable and aligned with their mommy and myself. This is a far different day than when we first started.
Today marks the sixth month of using The 1-1 Parenting Principle since the day I stumbled upon this new parenting paradigm during a camping trip with my boys. Read The 1-1 Story. Within the first three months, the amount of arguments from my boys reduced by 92%, and while I haven't been recording data after the first three months, the amount of opposition from my boys has reduced even more.
Back when I started, my boys were arguing with me an average of 1440 times in the first full month. I don't know about you, but I don't like to argue, especially with my family members whom I love. But by the second month of using 1-1, those arguments decreased nearly in half. After the third month, the average monthly arguments reduced to 120 – a whopping 92% reduction! Check out The 1-1 Results page >
With six months of 1-1 now under my belt, I don't find myself "Counting Minutes" (The 1-1 Parenting Principle) all too often, because my boys are listening and not arguing with me. In fact, when I ask them to do something, they respond quickly and joyfully with, "Okay, Daddy!" Even if I were to start counting minutes again, they don't usually let me get to one. On top of that, my boys do more things around the house than my wife and I expect from them.
As a result of such few arguments and excellent listening skills, my boys and I are able to have more meaningful 1-1 moments together. These moments last a lot longer because I have so much more energy to give to them. And because we're having more moments that last much longer, we're building amazing memories together. We're trusting each other and becoming closer than ever before.
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