Micro-Arguments Are Crushing You
The 1-1 Parenting Principle has sort of coined the term "Micro-Argument" in the parenthood arena, and it is defined as: Moment-by-moment arguments your child will give you, on a second-by second basis, in an attempt to not listen to you and usurp control over you. Micro-arguments are clearly not good. While they are typically small and seemingly insignificant, they drain you of all your energy and keep you from operating at your peak parenting performance.
What does a micro-argument look like?
So, what do you do? First, realize that your child is arguing with you because they naturally want to test the boundaries of their own freedom and personal autonomy. It's in our nature to want autonomy. That's why The 1-1 Parenting Principle works so well. When you enforce natural consequences with your child by taking your personal restoration time, you are at the same time temporarily shrinking their freedoms while you are enjoying yours. Every second in an argument with you is a minute with limited access to do all the fun things your child wants and needs from you. So, the more you enforce the natural consequences and take your restoration time, the more your child will listen to you and stop the arguments.
Remember, while it might be natural for your child to push the boundaries you've laid out for them, it is vitally important that you define and enforce those boundaries with natural consequences.
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